for all the tandeming mamas out there or those considering it.

We tandemed twice and were even triademing ;)) (is that a word?) at one point. Yes, it was hard (motherhood just is), sometimes I wanted to rip my hair out, but I also cherish the lessons I learned through that. Yes, patience, obviously. But also, living in the moment while seeing the bigger picture clearly.
And the usual things too - when you are tired from puking all day or whatever your pregnancy difficulty is, you toddler is still self absorbed in his/her stressful (the banana has a spot!!!) life and it is the end of the day, it is just a lot EASIER to simply lift a shirt and see the stress just melt away in an instant. Same goes for those days when daddy is working late and it is about dinner time and everyone is just tired - a quick nurse seems to settle everyone nicely, centering the family around this beautiful, bonding, loving and CALM, QUIET activity ;) No hassle, no preparation, no clean up :)
Life saver during the sickness too, when anything else is refused and you are just praising God for the gift of this miracle juice just simply oozing out of your body with no effort on your side whatsoever, that nourishes your sickly baby with increased dose of antibodies, and just the right proportion of all the right stuff that his body needs to recover. Again, at no extra effort from you! It just doesn't get better than this.

And the moments of sibling closeness - that's just the gift for life. No other siblings can bond on this level. No other siblings spend this much time together, on a daily basis, doing something so positive, engaging into tons of skin to skin, looking into each others eyes, stroking each others hair or just holding hands.

We are not tandeming anymore and I can totally testify that the ripping hair days are a lot LESS vivid in my memory than all this. I remember our tandeming as something very special and would do it all over again (and enjoy it a lot more thoroughly!; )). Kind of like parents enjoy their consecutive children a lot more - they understand how fleeting this all is and tend to soak it all up, rather than struggle and fight it :)

And the last word of encouragement.
"1To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven (...) 11He hath made every thing beautiful in his time."

God obviously thought it was a great idea to have you experience tandem nursing with your precious blessings right now :)